Loss of Desire
Not experiencing consistent interest in sex can cause confusion and worry, and make men vulnerable to making judgements against themselves.
Moreover, it can make their partners more vulnerable to feeling unattractive or undesirable.
It is made that much more difficult, when mainstream culture teaches us that men should be constantly desiring and pursuing sexual contact with their partners.
The reality is that as we mature, desire often becomes less spontaneous and is more responsive to dynamic factors in relationships.
For some men, connection and intimacy are important factors that create desire.
Like erectile dysfunction, a medical assessment by your family physician is an important first step in your treatment process.
A physical exam can identify any potential medical issues that may be negatively impacting your desire for sex.
Not experiencing consistent interest in sex can cause confusion and worry, and make men vulnerable to making judgements against themselves.
As we mature, desire often becomes less spontaneous and is more responsive to dynamic factors in relationships.
Desire can also be affected by extraneous factors as well such as substance use, mental health issues, medical issues, or conflicted feelings about sexuality.
Time for Change
Understanding why you might be experiencing a loss of desire is key to developing strategies to cope. There is good reason to be hopeful that, with the help of a skilled therapist, you will be able to develop a better understanding of what helps both promote, and put the ‘brakes on’, desire for you in your relationships.
Change is possible.
It can be a difficult decision to seek treatment for sexual difficulties and it is important to seek treatment from an experienced, skilled and compassionate therapist. I welcome any questions you may have to support you to achieve better control.